Valentines day gala for the singles!

Valentine's day is a special day for singles too!

I am not going to talk about the cute valentines day cards or the red roses or the huge soft hearts in red or the balloons or the volume of gifts arranged decoratively in shops for the dreamy eyed cute pairs.It is because i know that the cute couples are comfortably settled in their universe with no one but them in it.
My wishes to you!

This post on the contrary is dedicated to the singles out there by choice or otherwise trying to cope with the day's blues.

I personally dont care too much for the day not that i am immune to it, but simply because I learnt in a beautiful way that everyday should be a valentines day.
I experienced something that a lot of people had experienced in the past.And i am sure that there are a few very well known people who thought on similar lines.

A paradigm shift is when you get a different perspective of the same situation that you had seen earlier.

Something like that happened to me a couple of years ago.
When i go home for vacations, my mom thinks it her duty to show case me to all the relatives far and near. As most youngsters of this slighly aging generation i would rather watch a movie or curl up somewhere with a book rather than answer questions on when they can have their 'Chicken and biriyani'. I would have plainly told them, that i could buy them a dinner any time instead of trading me off in marriage for the delicacies,had it not been for my mom's stern glances.
But this once it was different, she asked me to come along to a friend's place to see her ailing dad. Now this man was over ninety and was obviously breathing his last. I have seen old people in close quarters but then it was scary. This time around i did not feel scared. I was contemplative.

When i went to see this man, the sight unnerved me completely.
He was frail,shrivelled, small and breathing very loud.
He did not have any control over his senses or emotions.
He did not know that there is a family looking after him with loving care.
He did not know the past, present or the future.

It changed my perceptions on people and on life. I stepped aside and looked back at all the people in my life who mattered to me and decided that it is at the present moment that i can show them that i care. Ever since then i have not wasted any opportunities to let them know that they matter to me.
Now this gesture need not be only for a romantic liasion. It could be your parents,friends or for that matter any one.

There is a little secret that i use to determine the priorities in life . I imagine that i am six feet under the ground, buried and then think what matters then.
Trust me a lot of things in your life changes.

If you treat everyone with love, care and respect at all times, everyday is Valentine's day.

After having said all this why did i chose such a topic.
I happened to see some one who was lonely. The pain in the voice was hard to disguise and it made me look around.Well what did i do? I did not talk to that person again. Talk about compassion.

There are a lot of faces bearing the same expression. It is hard to imagine that with so many people around how could you be so lonely. And statistics prove that this fact is alarmingly true too. There is a feeling of incompleteness and a 'missing something feel'. I was happy to hear from a friend that this particular feeling melted away when she got engaged. I can bet that not a lot of people are lucky as she is.
People drive them selves crazy doing something that just keeps them occupied and at the end of the day are lonely souls. Being alone makes them uncomfortable and scares them to no end.

Alone does not mean loneliness. It is easy to say 'enjoy the solitude' when you are pining away for company,I know. But the moment you start appreciating your self things change for the better.You cannot feel bored if no one is around.
But believe me if you are your best friend, you have a lifetime of a good relationship.

There are the lonely hearts pining away for a Valentine, just like last year and the year before that.
There are the others who are very much comfortable on their own and not looking for a commitment but are bugged by curious people with prying questions.

What ever be the case singles find this day special in a way that they sometimes may want to avoid it too.

On a serious note if you really wanted to have a fun Valentines day, here are some of the things that you might want to try.
1. Call up your near and dear ones. Tell them you care.
2. Send that long lost school friend a mail or post a card to tell them that you still remember them.
3. Indulge in gifts,clothes,perfumes,shoes,choclates or whatever you want.
4.Be an angel to some one :)
5.Have fun.
I almost forgot to tell that if you did have that secret crush for months,just go ahead and propose .Who knows...You might just get 'Yes' for an answer!