Dear Gautham,
First of all i am not sure if you would check your guest book.I did not have any means of reaching to you. And i hope you see this because it is 1.30AM and i just saw VV.
I loved Minnale and Kaaka Kaaka,sadly VV does not live upto your standards.Minnale is one of my all time favourites and i never get bored seeing the same movie again and again.
The plot of VV is excellent,it is simple and has a refreshing flavour. I loved the female protagonist but somewhere the movie stretched achingly slow.
I never write to any director,but i write to you because there was potential to make a great movie but some how some thing was missing.
The music was ok and the movie was a little above average partly for the treatment.
I almost felt that you had a real insight with how women think.Had it been a little carefully done it would have been great.I wish you all the best for this movie and for your ventures in the future.
Regards,
Friend
Friday, February 26, 2010
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Black,white or grey!
The other day a close friend read a few posts of mine and commented that a tussle was evident.
When i thought about it, i felt that it could be probably true.
Maybe i was looking at getting a black or white, but all i am getting are shades of grey which is a little tough to comprehend.
And so grey it is, various shades of grey.
When i thought about it, i felt that it could be probably true.
Maybe i was looking at getting a black or white, but all i am getting are shades of grey which is a little tough to comprehend.
And so grey it is, various shades of grey.
Friday, February 19, 2010
Life matters!
We are a generation of people who are paranoid of ageing. On second thoughts every generation like the previous ones worry about age and we have classic examples of men and women going to great lengths to retain their youth.
We have many fears in us but then we rarely have the courage to talk about but then it manifests itself in different ways.
I can talk about women because i am well acquainted with the species.
The subtle ways we express our fears take the form of our constant obsession with weight and fat.It seems like everyone around me is talking in terms of pounds and calories. I was immune but,thanks to a few pointing fingers, i join the league now.
The excessive obsession with skin and hair care can also be partially attributed to the innate fear of aging,sickness and dying.
I remember as a child that i used to take it for granted that my grand parents are meant to be old. I always heard them say that they have lived their life.
Thanks to my 'big mouth' i was always making fun of them,but for some reason when one of them quoted out a proverb for me,it caught my attention.The idea loosely translates like this. 'When the ripe leaf falls, the tender green leaf mocks and laughs at the falling leaf not knowing that one day it is going to face the same fate.'
Well that made an impact on my impressionable mind. I must admit it was not a very exciting prospect.The thought of growing old,sickness and death did not seem very appealing to me. The last one particularly.
The whole idea was disturbing and the urge to cling on to anything earthly was strong.
Learning detachment is a very tough lesson. And the secret to peaceful living is on similar lines.
What happens if you die today?
Well i lived most part of my life lazying around thinking that i have a lifetime in store. But when i tried to quantify that number it was outright ridiculous.
If you take it or mock it,this is the plain truth.
My only question is are you willing to leave everything right away,as it is?
The answer would be 'No' for 95% of us.
What if?
We grew old gracefully, wrinkles and grey hair did not matter adversely.On the contrary if we gracefully moved away for the next generation parting with all the wisdom we obtained in our life time.
We grew more compassion.
We picked our friends wisely filtered over time.
We thanked for all the minute seconds that mattered.
We were comfortable to move on.
We had no liabilities to any one in terms of anything.
We were completely satisfied with what life had to offer.And what we gave back.
And then living becomes precious meaningful and worthwhile.
We have many fears in us but then we rarely have the courage to talk about but then it manifests itself in different ways.
I can talk about women because i am well acquainted with the species.
The subtle ways we express our fears take the form of our constant obsession with weight and fat.It seems like everyone around me is talking in terms of pounds and calories. I was immune but,thanks to a few pointing fingers, i join the league now.
The excessive obsession with skin and hair care can also be partially attributed to the innate fear of aging,sickness and dying.
I remember as a child that i used to take it for granted that my grand parents are meant to be old. I always heard them say that they have lived their life.
Thanks to my 'big mouth' i was always making fun of them,but for some reason when one of them quoted out a proverb for me,it caught my attention.The idea loosely translates like this. 'When the ripe leaf falls, the tender green leaf mocks and laughs at the falling leaf not knowing that one day it is going to face the same fate.'
Well that made an impact on my impressionable mind. I must admit it was not a very exciting prospect.The thought of growing old,sickness and death did not seem very appealing to me. The last one particularly.
The whole idea was disturbing and the urge to cling on to anything earthly was strong.
Learning detachment is a very tough lesson. And the secret to peaceful living is on similar lines.
What happens if you die today?
Well i lived most part of my life lazying around thinking that i have a lifetime in store. But when i tried to quantify that number it was outright ridiculous.
If you take it or mock it,this is the plain truth.
My only question is are you willing to leave everything right away,as it is?
The answer would be 'No' for 95% of us.
What if?
We grew old gracefully, wrinkles and grey hair did not matter adversely.On the contrary if we gracefully moved away for the next generation parting with all the wisdom we obtained in our life time.
We grew more compassion.
We picked our friends wisely filtered over time.
We thanked for all the minute seconds that mattered.
We were comfortable to move on.
We had no liabilities to any one in terms of anything.
We were completely satisfied with what life had to offer.And what we gave back.
And then living becomes precious meaningful and worthwhile.
Friday, February 12, 2010
Valentines day gala for the singles!
Valentine's day is a special day for singles too!
I am not going to talk about the cute valentines day cards or the red roses or the huge soft hearts in red or the balloons or the volume of gifts arranged decoratively in shops for the dreamy eyed cute pairs.It is because i know that the cute couples are comfortably settled in their universe with no one but them in it.
My wishes to you!
This post on the contrary is dedicated to the singles out there by choice or otherwise trying to cope with the day's blues.
I personally dont care too much for the day not that i am immune to it, but simply because I learnt in a beautiful way that everyday should be a valentines day.
I experienced something that a lot of people had experienced in the past.And i am sure that there are a few very well known people who thought on similar lines.
A paradigm shift is when you get a different perspective of the same situation that you had seen earlier.
Something like that happened to me a couple of years ago.
When i go home for vacations, my mom thinks it her duty to show case me to all the relatives far and near. As most youngsters of this slighly aging generation i would rather watch a movie or curl up somewhere with a book rather than answer questions on when they can have their 'Chicken and biriyani'. I would have plainly told them, that i could buy them a dinner any time instead of trading me off in marriage for the delicacies,had it not been for my mom's stern glances.
But this once it was different, she asked me to come along to a friend's place to see her ailing dad. Now this man was over ninety and was obviously breathing his last. I have seen old people in close quarters but then it was scary. This time around i did not feel scared. I was contemplative.
When i went to see this man, the sight unnerved me completely.
He was frail,shrivelled, small and breathing very loud.
He did not have any control over his senses or emotions.
He did not know that there is a family looking after him with loving care.
He did not know the past, present or the future.
It changed my perceptions on people and on life. I stepped aside and looked back at all the people in my life who mattered to me and decided that it is at the present moment that i can show them that i care. Ever since then i have not wasted any opportunities to let them know that they matter to me.
Now this gesture need not be only for a romantic liasion. It could be your parents,friends or for that matter any one.
There is a little secret that i use to determine the priorities in life . I imagine that i am six feet under the ground, buried and then think what matters then.
Trust me a lot of things in your life changes.
If you treat everyone with love, care and respect at all times, everyday is Valentine's day.
After having said all this why did i chose such a topic.
I happened to see some one who was lonely. The pain in the voice was hard to disguise and it made me look around.Well what did i do? I did not talk to that person again. Talk about compassion.
There are a lot of faces bearing the same expression. It is hard to imagine that with so many people around how could you be so lonely. And statistics prove that this fact is alarmingly true too. There is a feeling of incompleteness and a 'missing something feel'. I was happy to hear from a friend that this particular feeling melted away when she got engaged. I can bet that not a lot of people are lucky as she is.
People drive them selves crazy doing something that just keeps them occupied and at the end of the day are lonely souls. Being alone makes them uncomfortable and scares them to no end.
Alone does not mean loneliness. It is easy to say 'enjoy the solitude' when you are pining away for company,I know. But the moment you start appreciating your self things change for the better.You cannot feel bored if no one is around.
But believe me if you are your best friend, you have a lifetime of a good relationship.
There are the lonely hearts pining away for a Valentine, just like last year and the year before that.
There are the others who are very much comfortable on their own and not looking for a commitment but are bugged by curious people with prying questions.
What ever be the case singles find this day special in a way that they sometimes may want to avoid it too.
On a serious note if you really wanted to have a fun Valentines day, here are some of the things that you might want to try.
1. Call up your near and dear ones. Tell them you care.
2. Send that long lost school friend a mail or post a card to tell them that you still remember them.
3. Indulge in gifts,clothes,perfumes,shoes,choclates or whatever you want.
4.Be an angel to some one :)
5.Have fun.
I almost forgot to tell that if you did have that secret crush for months,just go ahead and propose .Who knows...You might just get 'Yes' for an answer!
I am not going to talk about the cute valentines day cards or the red roses or the huge soft hearts in red or the balloons or the volume of gifts arranged decoratively in shops for the dreamy eyed cute pairs.It is because i know that the cute couples are comfortably settled in their universe with no one but them in it.
My wishes to you!
This post on the contrary is dedicated to the singles out there by choice or otherwise trying to cope with the day's blues.
I personally dont care too much for the day not that i am immune to it, but simply because I learnt in a beautiful way that everyday should be a valentines day.
I experienced something that a lot of people had experienced in the past.And i am sure that there are a few very well known people who thought on similar lines.
A paradigm shift is when you get a different perspective of the same situation that you had seen earlier.
Something like that happened to me a couple of years ago.
When i go home for vacations, my mom thinks it her duty to show case me to all the relatives far and near. As most youngsters of this slighly aging generation i would rather watch a movie or curl up somewhere with a book rather than answer questions on when they can have their 'Chicken and biriyani'. I would have plainly told them, that i could buy them a dinner any time instead of trading me off in marriage for the delicacies,had it not been for my mom's stern glances.
But this once it was different, she asked me to come along to a friend's place to see her ailing dad. Now this man was over ninety and was obviously breathing his last. I have seen old people in close quarters but then it was scary. This time around i did not feel scared. I was contemplative.
When i went to see this man, the sight unnerved me completely.
He was frail,shrivelled, small and breathing very loud.
He did not have any control over his senses or emotions.
He did not know that there is a family looking after him with loving care.
He did not know the past, present or the future.
It changed my perceptions on people and on life. I stepped aside and looked back at all the people in my life who mattered to me and decided that it is at the present moment that i can show them that i care. Ever since then i have not wasted any opportunities to let them know that they matter to me.
Now this gesture need not be only for a romantic liasion. It could be your parents,friends or for that matter any one.
There is a little secret that i use to determine the priorities in life . I imagine that i am six feet under the ground, buried and then think what matters then.
Trust me a lot of things in your life changes.
If you treat everyone with love, care and respect at all times, everyday is Valentine's day.
After having said all this why did i chose such a topic.
I happened to see some one who was lonely. The pain in the voice was hard to disguise and it made me look around.Well what did i do? I did not talk to that person again. Talk about compassion.
There are a lot of faces bearing the same expression. It is hard to imagine that with so many people around how could you be so lonely. And statistics prove that this fact is alarmingly true too. There is a feeling of incompleteness and a 'missing something feel'. I was happy to hear from a friend that this particular feeling melted away when she got engaged. I can bet that not a lot of people are lucky as she is.
People drive them selves crazy doing something that just keeps them occupied and at the end of the day are lonely souls. Being alone makes them uncomfortable and scares them to no end.
Alone does not mean loneliness. It is easy to say 'enjoy the solitude' when you are pining away for company,I know. But the moment you start appreciating your self things change for the better.You cannot feel bored if no one is around.
But believe me if you are your best friend, you have a lifetime of a good relationship.
There are the lonely hearts pining away for a Valentine, just like last year and the year before that.
There are the others who are very much comfortable on their own and not looking for a commitment but are bugged by curious people with prying questions.
What ever be the case singles find this day special in a way that they sometimes may want to avoid it too.
On a serious note if you really wanted to have a fun Valentines day, here are some of the things that you might want to try.
1. Call up your near and dear ones. Tell them you care.
2. Send that long lost school friend a mail or post a card to tell them that you still remember them.
3. Indulge in gifts,clothes,perfumes,shoes,choclates or whatever you want.
4.Be an angel to some one :)
5.Have fun.
I almost forgot to tell that if you did have that secret crush for months,just go ahead and propose .Who knows...You might just get 'Yes' for an answer!
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Blogging away!
I had taken a hiatus from blogging for a brief while.
The reason being that quite a few of my friends and acquaintances forced me to think why i blog?
They asked questions!
1.Who the heck wants to read my blog?
2.What is the godamn point? (Well some one actually went ahead and told me that they dont enjoy reading my blog as much as i enjoy writing them,talk about being blunt.But since the person in question is a dear friend i forgive and move on stoically! ).
For the others who have the same train of thought i have just one piece of advice and that would be 'Dont read.Dont read my blogs if you are so repelled by the idea.
Well coming to the question at hand I think i always knew what the answers are and that is the reason why i am doing it.
The answers are simple.
I have formulated ten reasons as to why i blog.
1.For one this is one way of sharing some of the nice things happening in my life and also some of the not so picture perfect moments. It is all fun and part of the larger picture. It is sharing a piece of my life, a few moments in time.
Good or bad doesnt matter. It is a connect forged with the reader.
2.Ten years down the lane when i check my archives i would smile and say 'Man, I was young!What did the heck was i thinking?'
Today i would say that it is worth the embarrassment.
3.It is the easiest way to let people know who you are or you who you want them to think you are. It changes perceptions[not that i want anyone to,but it is fun].
And in my case the perceptions are so really different that i am tempted to question if i have a split personality disorder.
Deranged, idealistic, quiet, gregarious, hyper active, loner,out going, shy ,extrovert,snobbish,sweet, considerate,heartless,caring...phew now which one of these is true? Well i dont want an answer to that, but you get the point right?
4. Writing is creative and postive. It keeps me going. It makes me feel good.It lifts me up when i am down.
5.It is sharing of ideas and thoughts.It is most often a good thing.
6.It is my space and my cosm.No one questions!
7.I can say things that i normally would not say it straight on the face. I know that this is not the bravest act but then, sometimes it helps.
8.It makes people think. I never forget a well written article.
9.Writing forces you to think, about your opinions,likes and dislikes. It makes you understand your self better.And the best thing about blogging is you get to know about what people think about what you think.
10. The fringe benefits are you can bitch, talk behind anyones back and vent out your frustration about anyone you want.Not that i want to talk about my manager here ;)
These are some reasons i blog.
However for people who want to start blogging my piece of advice is
1.Do not share confidential/personal information.
2.Be aware that there are not so good people around too.You wouldnt want to be cyber stalked.
3.Know your boundaries.
4.Your prospective employer might want to do a google on you and you seriously would'nt want to post something detrimental to your prospects.
Good luck and Happy blogging!
Get started guys!
The reason being that quite a few of my friends and acquaintances forced me to think why i blog?
They asked questions!
1.Who the heck wants to read my blog?
2.What is the godamn point? (Well some one actually went ahead and told me that they dont enjoy reading my blog as much as i enjoy writing them,talk about being blunt.But since the person in question is a dear friend i forgive and move on stoically! ).
For the others who have the same train of thought i have just one piece of advice and that would be 'Dont read.Dont read my blogs if you are so repelled by the idea.
Well coming to the question at hand I think i always knew what the answers are and that is the reason why i am doing it.
The answers are simple.
I have formulated ten reasons as to why i blog.
1.For one this is one way of sharing some of the nice things happening in my life and also some of the not so picture perfect moments. It is all fun and part of the larger picture. It is sharing a piece of my life, a few moments in time.
Good or bad doesnt matter. It is a connect forged with the reader.
2.Ten years down the lane when i check my archives i would smile and say 'Man, I was young!What did the heck was i thinking?'
Today i would say that it is worth the embarrassment.
3.It is the easiest way to let people know who you are or you who you want them to think you are. It changes perceptions[not that i want anyone to,but it is fun].
And in my case the perceptions are so really different that i am tempted to question if i have a split personality disorder.
Deranged, idealistic, quiet, gregarious, hyper active, loner,out going, shy ,extrovert,snobbish,sweet, considerate,heartless,caring...phew now which one of these is true? Well i dont want an answer to that, but you get the point right?
4. Writing is creative and postive. It keeps me going. It makes me feel good.It lifts me up when i am down.
5.It is sharing of ideas and thoughts.It is most often a good thing.
6.It is my space and my cosm.No one questions!
7.I can say things that i normally would not say it straight on the face. I know that this is not the bravest act but then, sometimes it helps.
8.It makes people think. I never forget a well written article.
9.Writing forces you to think, about your opinions,likes and dislikes. It makes you understand your self better.And the best thing about blogging is you get to know about what people think about what you think.
10. The fringe benefits are you can bitch, talk behind anyones back and vent out your frustration about anyone you want.Not that i want to talk about my manager here ;)
These are some reasons i blog.
However for people who want to start blogging my piece of advice is
1.Do not share confidential/personal information.
2.Be aware that there are not so good people around too.You wouldnt want to be cyber stalked.
3.Know your boundaries.
4.Your prospective employer might want to do a google on you and you seriously would'nt want to post something detrimental to your prospects.
Good luck and Happy blogging!
Get started guys!
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)